I woke up this morning to a guest post just begging to be added to my blog. After experiencing technical difficulties connecting his computer with our printer, my sixteen year old son, Blaise, had forwarded hishomework to my email account and printed it from there. Being the writing and editing mom that I am, I felt compelled to read it. Luckily, Blaise is willing to share his work with me and in this case, with you. I love this piece because it is a rare glimpse into the mind of my (and maybe your) teenage son’s mind. I hope you enjoy Blaise W. Brennan’s first ever blog post.
The screen beams to life, slicing through the darkness of my room. A moment later, after my eyes adjust and my hand grasps the mouse, I begin to navigate to my browser, and sign in to my Facebook. Facebooking to sleep was not new to me at the time. As the infamous pressures of high school began to materialize, I often found my mind skipping around the homework I had just completed, or the homework that I had yet to complete, and my response was to put it to rest with a smidgeon of social networking.
As I scrolled through the plethora of status updates, a strange thought occurred to me. A trend that had been sitting there upon the white backdrop the entire time suddenly began to take form in front of my eyes. I glanced from picture to picture, status to status, noting each occurrence, and it hit me: I was not like these people.
Somehow apart was I from these people I called friends. I saw girls with skimpy clothing, their faces awkwardly puckered, their hair straightened to perfection and their ears with more piercings than I have fingers and toes. I noted the boys with skater shoes, jeans barely resting on their hips, graphic t-shirts loosely suspended upon their underdeveloped shoulders, and their necks plastered with fake gold chains. I gasped at the orange complexions of the girls who called themselves popular and at the profanity of the boys who called each other “bro.” My findings, in their melancholy, pointed to one conclusion, and despite my reluctance to accept it, I was forced to realize that these people, the mere children I had surrounded myself with, were superficial. They were everything I didn’t want to be.
Was it inevitable that I would, in some shape or form, through some kind of feelings of inadequacy or longing for self-improvement, become like them? My brain droned on, steering me in circles, while my heart cried out for fear of the inevitable.
But it was then that I felt a slight vibration in my wrists that had been resting on the desk.
I shifted in my seat, surprised that at this hour anyone might have tried to contact me. With a few deftly aimed keystrokes I opened the message, its white screen no less agonizing to my eyes than the laptop had been. The message’s choppy texting language deciphered, I discovered that it was an invitation to come see a friend of mine play with his band. His plea was that they had not even played a single show yet, and with their early slot he was afraid that they would have no one to come out and support them.
Anxious for asylum from my recent epiphany, I responded immediately, typing out the message with cold deliberateness. I would go to see my friends play. It seemed like years until the show date finally came around, and in that time I thought about what it might be like. He called it “Manhattan Beach Club,” apparently referring to a music club in our local community. I had visions of enormous crowds “moshing” to gods of rock ‘n roll on stage playing machine gun drum solos and raging guitar. My mom had visions of something else entirely when I mentioned the word “club,” and it was only with heavy reluctance that she allowed me to go.
When I finally arrived at the location on a Friday night, just as the sun was passing over the horizon, I discovered that it was none of those things. The one-story building was a hole-in-the-wall hangout spot at best. The ancient side paneling peeled away from the brick in the foundation (which I hypothesized probably peeled apart from itself as well). Only a few band members had even shown up yet – apparently it was the style of rockers to be fashionably late- and I gathered with some people I had been acquainted with through school or sports, but never became absolute friends with.
In the absence of a ride out of this place, I was forced to stick around at least until 11:00. After about an hour, I noticed a considerable group forming. Not overbearing, but enough that I was able to freely travel through the one room edifice without seeing a single face twice. The music, at first a noisy background to the larger social scene, slowly began to become the center attraction. Anybody still outside had by then poured in and crowded the amateur musicians. Everyone danced, from circles of “skankin’” to headbanging to “moshing” everyone was active, and no one was left out.
I stopped dancing. I looked to my left and saw people with nothing to prove to anyone. The girls were not flirting, the guys weren’t trying to impress. I looked to my right and saw not baggy pants and low-cut shirts, but high-schoolers who wore what was comfortable and practical. There was a unity here that contrasted to the ruthless, selfishness of every “friend” I had in school. There were people here who rejected the falseness of our peers. People who had found their realization long before I had. It wasn’t futile. I was with people who could be real. Happy. Honest. This was who I wanted to be.
I put an arm around the friends at my side, put my head back down, and fell into the rhythm of the music. I danced, and I felt a grin stretch across my face.